Military families often face challenging and stressful issues that can put marriages at risk. Military families move a lot and can face long deployments where communication with their partner is difficult. Those issues can become more complicated when young children are involved.

Like any other marriage, military spouses face financial and emotional challenges, including issues of infidelity or mistrust, or massive debt, which can break an already strained relationship. Periods of long separation often result in spouses feeling distant and alone.

Take action when troubles begin

Whether you are working to resolve your differences or considering divorce, consider these steps:

  • Identify why the marriage isn’t working: If the issues aren’t obvious, such as one spouse being unfaithful, marriage counseling can identify the root causes and help couples create a plan to address them.
  • Be prepared if divorce is the only option: Knowing your rights as a military spouse is critical before filing for divorce, especially if children are involved.
  • Read the USFSPA: The Uniformed Services Former Spouse Protection Act spells out what benefits ex-spouses are entitled to and what they are not, including retirement pay, insurance and survivor benefits.
  • Understand how other relationships will be affected: When spouses of military members divorce, they also frequently lose the support networks they developed in the military.

Consult a military divorce specialist

Divorce can be a devastatingly personal matter for any family. However, a military divorce done incorrectly can cause an ex-spouse to lose benefits and military privileges they are entitled to receive. A family law attorney here in California with 40 years of experience in military divorces will protect your rights for state and federal benefits. Your attorney will offer compassionate and honest advice while aggressively pursuing your interests.